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Friends at work

As a remote employee, I enjoy quiet times when I can let my brain steam and bubble while doing my job in the complete silence of our home during the day.

But I truly enjoy my monthly travels to the office I belong with.

If on any particular reason the time between the travels to the office is longer that one month, then I notice something, or rather I notice that something or someone is missing.

I miss my friends at work. Without various social and meeting networks one month would be much, much too long. These sweet people are not just colleagues. They are my friends!

I claim that my colleagues are ones of the very best one could have in the world. And I suspect that everyone who loves his or her job, does it also because of great colleagues.

And another claim of mine: any working place has great people, or at least one great and kind person, and most will welcome you if you welcome them.

December Christmas atmosphere has surely amplified this warm feeling of being together with my colleagues. We worked hard on closing up many projects and tasks at the end of the year, but we also laughed, joked, helped and encouraged each other in our work.

This time, there were three of us, “remote ones” in the office, or rather two “children who moved out and came to visit” and one “cousin” from the sister-office in another country. I had an impression that everyone was happy to see us and that our stay had a special meaning. By deliberate “luck” we were the ones to be drawn to open pre-Christmas presents on these days of visit.

The Christmas party was, of course, the highlight with the fun games, wonderful meal and dances afterwards.

I was so warmed and impressed by the intensity of these two days I spent with my colleagues, that I couldn’t stop thinking about this during my flight back home.

Therefore this post, which I dedicate to all great colleagues of this world, whichever job you are doing and wherever you are working. Thank you for supporting your friends at work no matter how far they may be! Thank you for your special friendship!

 

Picture: there is a sky-walk between the national and international flight areas in Copenhagen airport. I usually choose to go below it along a narrow walk leading directly to the gate I often suppose to take, but this time, on an impulse, I chose the sky-walk. And I was rewarded! The whole walk was lined-up with beautifully decorated Christmas trees. Every column had one adjacent to it! A picture was a must! In fact I took nine! And share two of them with you. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year  to everyone who reads these lines!

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A complex answer to a simple question

What do you answer when you are asked this simple question: “Where are you from?” Do you answer “I am from” and then put the place you live, or you were born, or grew up in? Well there are different possibilities to it, but I guess many people will answer this starting with words “I am from …”.

Do you know what my standard answer was until recently? It was: “Well, it’s complicated.”

So, I did that when I was asked by a taxi driver where I was from, while he drove me from a train station to the office I work with, in a small Danish town close to Copenhagen.

When I said “It’s complicated”, he was quite confused, so I gladly started to explain that I was born and grew up in Moldova, yes-yes the little country between Romania and Ukraine, then lived long time in Germany – twelve years! – and became German citizen, and now I live in Denmark since five years.”

The driver appeared even more confused. I guess I expected him to be amused and being impressed, but he wasn’t that at all.

After a pause he said: “Well, I wanted to know whether you would like to pay in Euros or Danish Crowns.” After a startled moment of silence and exchange of glances in the rear mirror, we both burst out laughing.

“Then I am definitely from Denmark!” I said.

We had a wonderful chat afterwards and the driver found out for me that all places I lived for a longer time were on a mainland, whether it was Moldova, Algeria, Germany or Denmark. An unimportant but fun information.

But there are two lessons I learned from this seemingly simple but for me unforgettable exchange.

The first is that we are afraid, consciously or sub-consciously, to appear simple and unsophisticated and tend to make things more complicated in order to appear more interesting.

And the second was that the thing I was scared most, misunderstandings, could be the cause of very funny and wonderful encounters and can make life even richer. On that day I started appreciating misunderstandings.

What misunderstandings made you laugh? When was the last time that your mind played a practical joke on you?

Electrical aspect of a walk

There are different types of switches. Some can be turned quickly and some need applying some power to smoothly switch them into another condition. Switching from an intense day work to time with family, friends, home and hobbies, might be one of such switches. And nothing is better than a walk in order to turn this “switch”. It has just the necessary power to do so. And it is adjustable too. For a harder switch a longer or a faster or a slower walk. Experiment makes it fun.
I love walking to my son’s crèche to pick him up. It is about 20 min walk and I often have a desire to think of solutions for the tasks unresolved during the day. Then I realize having a concept that the world around me on the streets I know is always the same. But it’s not. And as soon as I realize this, I am drawn into the current moment and see many sweet and wonderful things: a bird hiding in the bushes, a child playing in the sand, two pretty girls on bikes chatting and laughing out loud, which makes me smile too. And in the next moment I smile in anticipation to see my son, who just minutes later runs to me and hugs my legs! The switch is successfully turned.
Enjoy your walks and turn the switches!

The things I don’t think about

I don’t think there is something I haven’t thought about. Well, perhaps there is, but with this thought stated right here, right now, I have thought about that as well. I know, very confusing. Tell me about it!

Isn’t it amazing how easy it is to confuse and fool ourselves by the mere thought starting with “I don’t think about it”!

Here is what happened many years ago and probably not only once, when I was trying to overcome a heartbreak of a “love crash” for a friend who didn’t return my feelings. After a short break in a long train of thoughts about him, I congratulated myself: “Hey, I am not thinking about him!” After a while I understood the ridiculousness of this thought and had to laugh out loud. This started the healing process.

Today, I am grateful for all those experiences and how my life turned out, because even if I didn’t want those experiences at that time, I treasure all I have in my life today; at least when I am aware of what I have.

The thought “I don’t think about this” reminds me often of the famous experiment: “Now, don’t think of a blue elephant in front of your door!” This flash of memory is followed by a big grin on my face and a realization that both the greatest and the worst wizards of the world, as I experience it, live in my own head.

Books with all senses

(Inspired by an exercise from the book by Margret  Geraghty “The five-minute writer: Exercise and inspiration in creative writing in five minutes a day” – http://www.amazon.com/Five-Minute-Writer-Exercise-inspiration-creative/dp/1845283392/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1372715967&sr=1-1&keywords=the+five+minute+writer– to write about the things to be happy about and how we experience them with all senses)

Vision

When reading a good book, especially a novel, I don’t really see the words. Supported by imagination, the words flow into pictures or rather into a movie, of which I am probably as much a director as the book’s authors is. And if the imaginative director has problems to realize the ideas of the text director, then the probability is high that at some point I, as a reader, might give up the reading.

Hearing

The movie my imagination is creating has a clear sound, especially in dialogues. Although, I noticed an interesting phenomenon: when watching a movie based on a book I have read and liked before watching, the difference in voices between the movie’s and imagined characters bothers me much less than the difference in their appearance. In fact, I must say, I wouldn’t be able to describe the looks and the sounds of the characters in the book, only when seeing them filmed I can say that they should have looked differently, for example, taller or smaller, hair is darker or with more curls, complexion thinner or stronger etc. But here, I slipped again into vision.

Taste

How does a book taste? I have never eaten one, I must say, but while reading of good or bad food, my imagination does provide me on a taste feeling, especially when it is explicitly indicated as salty, bitter, sweet, bittersweet (in case of a positive feeling, I am thinking here of how a grapefruit tastes), strong – when related to coffee – and many other. Of course, the taste is different for every person. When I see the word chocolate, I taste dark chocolate of at least 75% cocoa in it. My husband tastes milk chocolate, because this is the right “chocolate way” for him.

Touch

Hmmm, there are two aspects to this.

First, there is the texture of a book. My personal favorite is paperback. I love the texture of pages: flexible but firm enough to bear wonders. And the cover of a paperback is close to the texture of its pages. I think that hard cover is too bold, but if there is no paperback yet out for a certain book I want to read, then hard cover is a compromise. I am still immune against e-books. I do have some on my computer. But I hardly read them. Not so long ago, I have printed one, so that I could read it on paper.

A sheet of paper with words on it has a magical attraction to me. I might be appalled or get bored after reading the printed words, but the first message that is sent by them to my brain and which I follow obediently is: “Read us!”

Another aspect of touch, while reading a book, is the sense that the books generate when being read. These can vary from chill or goose-bumps to hard and rough and soft and gentle.

Have you noticed that watching a movie does not generate the sense of a touch quite as strongly as the books do? The feelings of being happy, sad, scared, excited, terrified or overrun with joy are well transmittable visually, but if you see someone walking on the sand, you will not feel the sand texture yourself unless it is explicitly addressed or talked about, as for example a character asking another: “Can you feel the sand between your toes?”

“So, what is better than reading a book?” you may ask. I can only give a silly answer to this: “Reading more books!”

Smell

Oh, I almost forgot to write about the smell of a book. Like touch, I think there is the smell of the book itself and the smell its text generates in your imagination.

For the smell of a book, I have heard many times that the real book lovers enjoy the smell of the old books and they just adore going to libraries, especially to the rooms inhabited by ancient books. I feel differently about this. The smell of old books suffocates me, and I try to get distance from an old book or read it quickly, as though not to let it pull me in the past as an ancient old oil lamp of a Ginny.

Please, don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy books and texts written long ago, although I prefer the contemporary books and texts. The “old” books and texts should be printed on new and fresh paper, in order to make me come closer. So, you could say, I like looking at books from a new, fresh angle. Well, all right, I know, this bridge to something deeply wise and sophisticated didn’t work. But what is true is that I love the smell of the newly printed books. I don’t know why, but I do. And because of that, my heaven is not a library but a bookstore with new books coming fresh from print.

And now about the smell generated by reading: Can I describe it? No, I can’t. Can you? All I can say here is that most probably like hearing and touch, the generated smell is based on the smells (or sounds and textures  for hearing and touch) I already know and they might vary very much from what the author has intended. I guess that is why, book clubs and communities will never disappear, simply because perception of a book is so different from person to person and we can get so many surprises when discussing a book we read with someone else.